ABOUT APRIL GETZ

I grew up in a home shaped by alcoholism, chaos, and emotional absence. As a child, I learned to disappear — to stay quiet, stay small, and stay out of the way. I remember the loneliness more than anything. The feeling of being unseen became the backdrop of my entire childhood.

At fifteen, desperate to escape, I ran away with a boyfriend. But I quickly discovered that dysfunction doesn’t disappear just because you change locations. His home carried the same emotional instability I had tried to flee. I left that relationship knowing I wanted something different but not yet knowing how to find it.

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At nineteen, I married a man who felt safe — a father figure, someone older, someone who seemed steady. But safety is not the same as love. I spent years performing for approval, trying to earn attention, trying to be “good enough.” He was controlling, and I didn’t yet know how to claim my own voice. I didn’t know who I was — only who I was supposed to be.

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At forty-five, everything changed. I realized I could no longer stay in a marriage where I was unsupported, unseen, and emotionally alone. I chose divorce — not because it was easy, but because it was the first time I chose me. I raised my son and daughter on my own, determined to give them the emotional presence I never had. And I did. They grew into strong, successful adults, and I made it a priority to meet with them regularly, pouring wisdom into them, breaking generational patterns one conversation at a time.

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But when they left home, I felt the familiar emptiness return. My purpose as a mother had been fulfilled — but who was I now?

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That question led me to personal coaching.